Ed consulted with me because he was concerned about his 16 year-old son.
“He doesn’t have any friends. I’d like to spend more time with him but there doesn’t seem to be anything he likes to do.”
“How does he spend his time?” I asked.
“Playing video games.”
Betsy consulted with me because she was concerned about her husband’s lack of motivation.
“Every night he plays video games for hours and then is too tired the next day to do a good job at work. I’m afraid he is going to lose his job, but he gets angry at me if I say anything to him about it.”
Carolyn consulted with me because of her concern over her sons.
“After graduating high school, Brandon did a semester of college and then dropped out. Matthew graduated last year and has been doing some odd jobs, but neither of them seem motivated to do much of anything.”
“How do they spend their time?”
“They sleep in and then play video games.”
A study conducted by the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention indicates that 45 percent of the population of people between the ages of 19 and 90 are video game players, with an average age of 35.
According to the study, “Video games might be regarded as an obsession for youngsters but in fact the average player is aged 35, often overweight, introverted and may be depressed.” 56% of the video game players were men. The research suggested that “video gaming for adults may be a form of ‘digital self-medication.’”
Is this really any different than using alcohol, drugs, food, TV, or any other activity to avoid feelings and taking responsibility for one’s feelings? Obviously, playing video games has become a huge addictive activity in our society.
While the average age of video game players is 35, it is unlikely that they started playing at age 35. Probably, like Ed and Carolyn’s children, they started in adolescence and never stopped.
Playing video games is an easy way of avoiding fears, especially fears of rejection, engulfment, and failure. One researcher stated that “…adult video game players may ‘sacrifice real-world social activities to play video games.’”
As I explored with both Ed and Carolyn, it became apparent that both of them were role modeling addictive behavior for their children. Ed would spend his downtime watching TV and drinking beer, while Carolyn used food to avoid her feelings. Although neither Ed or Carolyn played video games, this is likely because video games were not around when they were younger so they got addicted to other things. But neither Ed nor Carolyn were showing their children by their own behavior how to take responsibility for their own feelings.
I worked with both Ed and Carolyn on learning to take loving care of themselves and on how to interact with their children in ways that encouraged them to begin to take loving action for themselves. Gradually the parents and the children began to take steps toward letting go of their various addictions.
Fortunately, Betsy’s husband was willing to join her in phone sessions with me. In dealing with his fears of rejection and failure that were behind his addiction to video games, he became willing to limit his video game playing to 1 hour each evening.
All addictions are ways of avoiding the feelings that you believe you can’t manage. It is unrealistic to think that you will just stop your addictions if you haven’t learned to take responsibility for creating many of your painful feelings with your own self-abandonment, and you haven’t learned to lovingly nurture the challenging feelings of loneliness, heartache, and heartbreak that are a part of life.
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Violence And Video Games
by: Denard King
From Congressman Joe Baca {D} of California, to the Halo 3 Murder Trial of Daniel Petric, violence and video games seem to be intertwined, with or without the help of a congressman, parents, the media or very disturbed individuals, seriously.
From video game forums, blogs, articles and other media outlets, I’ve read many thoughts on violence in video games and how it effects, or better yet, how much it effects human behavior. Some gamers believe that violence adds realism to the game and is needed, and some enjoy it also, but wouldn’t kill their mom or shoot their dad in the head for taking away their Halo 3 game a la Daniel Petric.
Congressman Joe Baca of California would like to have Health Warnings on video games stating “WARNING: Excessive exposure to violent video games and other violent media has been linked to aggressive behavior.” For real Joe? And for all the studies in the past, and those to come in the future of violent video games being the link to belligerent behavior, their has never been one unanimous agreement of this being so. And for every study you find saying there is a link between the two, you’ll another saying differently.
Alot of things, if not everything is imitated reality. You see it on tv and movies, hear it in music, read it in newspapers. If all you watched was the news, cable or local, you would think the damn world was coming to an end tomorrow. The first mentioned above outlets do have warnings or ratings, hell, the news should also. And in my own personal study, I came to the conclusion that I could pick a number of things in ones life and say that’s the link. I’m joking, but very serious.
Look, I know that video game related cases like the Columbine killings which had the Doom reference, Daniel Petric with Halo 3 and a couple of cases where Grand Theft Auto was the culprit are made larger than life. Each of these cases goes way deeper than video games. We don’t know exactly what was going through these individuals head’s when they did what they did. We don’t know the kind of household these people were raised in. Some people really don’t have it all mentally, and if that’s the case a movie, a song, the news or anything else that could have been encountered MAY be the trigger but not the link.
Reality is violence, violence is reality, both are copied in many forms of entertainment. And in my opinion they are one in the same, which is why video game developers try there best to make certain games mimic reality to the tee, violence included, just like in the movies. It’s almost as though it’s a necessary evil, without those certain types of games you lose a big base of your consumers, lose that base lose more jobs.
Violence is and always will be around. Violence in video games is no more of a link to militant behavior than any other media outlet entertainment. Violence is intertwined with many things, the state of ones mental capacity and actions leading up to an tragic event is another article for another day. To say this or that is the link is apples and oranges. Video games, with or without violence continues to be a favorite home pastime, yearly revenues worldwide continue to show that. Life is unpredictable, people do crazy things, and the problem is deeper than violence in video games.
About The Author
Denard King is a video game enthusiast who is intrigued by the video game industry.